This may seem heavy for a Saturday afternoon, but this is something I have been struggling with in my own life recently, and since this is my blog, it is something I wanted to bring to the table and have all of us talk about together, or at least share my thoughts/opinions/nonsense to you, my friend.
We all have low points, and I think something I personally struggle with is thinking I am alone in the world with problems. Self Deprecation is not something that we think of as a mental health concern. We see this happen as a result of Depression, Alcohol/Drug abuse, and a ton of other things that I am sure you can imagine. I know that as a college student, I have experienced failure, and not feeling like I am good enough. It comes from our friends, family, peers, teachers, basically all sides.
Similar to other things, not loving yourself eats away at you. Over time, this can have some pretty significant results. I have seen my “light”, as people call it, get dimmer and dimmer. Living in a stressful place with a mass amount of negativity coming from that place hurts you. Yeah yeah, move away, right? A lot of us are stuck in places because of school, work, or just financial reasons. In these situations, we have to mend ourselves with what resources we have around us.
This is probably the lowest I have felt in my adult life, so I understand that if you are going through the same thing, it is insanely hard. As much as I do not want this to all be about me, that is not my style, I feel like it is important that we are able to meet on common ground with each other. I mean, that’s how we all make friends in the real world, right? So, I am about to talk about some ways that I am trying to overcome my own self deprecation complications, and how you can apply these same things to your life.
- Stop Comparing Yourself: I know that we as a society really care about celebrities, money, nice things, etc. People are constantly trying to be something they are not, or trying to have something just because someone else has it. The one thing I have noticed about social media, is that people show you the highlights of their life. They are not going to show you the negative parts, because no one wants to see that! Happiness is such an important part of life, and people thrive off of other people’s happiness, so that’s what you need to remember. I know that particularly in the blogging world, we see this a lot. People have amazing websites, amazing content, amazing pictures, and a bomb newsletter.I know that I remind myself every day that I am new! You have to build yourself up to be what you want, it comes with work. Instead of wishing you were someone else, you should focus on becoming the best version of you. Right now, they may seem like an impossible task, trust me. You need to take initiative. You want to be a great blogger? Research, learn, experiment, heck, as other bloggers! This is a supportive piece of the internet, and everyone wants to help each other, which is what makes it so beautiful. In our normal world, you don’t have to be someone else. If you like something they have/do, you can do that too! You just have to take the first steps to your future.
- Get Rid Of Stereotypes: This is definitely something that kills me. I remember when I was little, I was going to have an amazing job, an amazing husband, and maybe a baby at 27. Guess what, none of that has happened, haha. It has a lot to do with how you were raised also. We have a lot of things we are supposed to live up to in the south. I like to think that I am a “New Age Southerner”. I love the culture of this area, I love the history (most of it), and I mean…the food is bomb y’all. As much as I am not where I want to be, I know that I can get there, I just have to make my own way. Your mom might be angry at you, but hey, mine is angry at me every day, but she still loves me haha. Like I have probably said a million times…you just have to want it. Think about Aggie Cromwell from Halloweentown (if you have not seen it, open up another tab, and go watch it). She says something to Marnie that I have kept with me for years “…all you’ve got to do is want something, and then let yourself have it.”. Yeah, this may be about magic, but sometimes we need some magic to keep going.
- Change Your Attitude Sister: If you are constantly negative, you will never get out of this feeling. Yeah, being overly positive is annoying, but as my Aunt Jenny would say “fake it till you make it Ash”. If you force yourself to be positive, then maybe you can somehow rewire your brain, and get your sh*t together. Happy looks a whole lot better on you than constantly being negative. Negativity is like a figurative cigarette. Addictive, Smelly, and gives you a whole lot of wrinkles. Not to mention kills you from the inside out. Successful people have down days too, but I can assure you that putting in work will help flush that negativity out. Plus, it is like a hobby, and that will keep your mind off of a lot of things.
To wrap this up, I am going to talk about this blog, and how it has changed a lot of things in my own life. At the beginning of this year, I definitely had no drive at all, and was trying to find some sort of direction. While mindlessly watching Bravo reality shows, we all love them, don’t look at me like that, I had a realization. I have wanted to start a blog for years…so what on earth was I waiting on? After my company closed down last year, I never realized how much I really depended on my job. I loved it, and always had a great time, and loved the creativity that I was able to release. I was lucky enough to have family to support me and let me complete my degree without having to balance a full time job, in addition to my full time classes. Back to the blog story…
I started this blog as a hobby, and it is something that I look so forward to every day. I love the socialization that comes from it, the creativity I get to express, and just having somewhere to put my thoughts that aren’t my poor friends or family. It has truly brought me so much happiness, and if you are feeling any similar to how I have briefly explained that I am, then maybe you should try this out. I have done a few posts about blogging, and I will have those down below if you are looking to start it up, or need some resources to add to your library. Read up!
Although I am not certified to offer any help, I am a pretty darn good listener, and can give you my random advice haha, just reach out! All of my contact info is here, and pretty active on all of those, so I am always around. I hope you guys have a great day, and if you’re still here, thank you so much! You have no idea how much it means to me.